QOTD: Pat Cadigan

[wordweaverlynn]

Don’t talk to yourself in such a way that if you did so to a friend, it would end your friendship.

If you had a friend dealing with the same things, you wouldn’t berate that person, say, ‘You’re not working hard enough,’ ‘You suck,’ or ‘You’re not as good as [whomever].’ You’d offer your friend encouragement, you’d try to point out all the things your friend did right, and how much progress your friend had made.

You should do no less for yourself.

Be very careful how you talk to yourself. Because *you are listening.*

--Pat Cadigan

Comments

[hunningham]

Oh! That is such good advice

[sabr]

This is so true, and I think... after a melt down I had this afternoon, this was precisely what I needed to hear. Thank you for posting this for the universe to remember!

[lavendertook]

That's a good reminder.

[jehanne1431]

So very true.

[dubhain]

Well written. I do like Pat Cadigan's work.

Thanks for posting it.

[thatdawnperson]

It's hard when you've had negative self-talk modelled from your earliest family-of-origin memories and kept the habit for many years. Reframing to treat yourself as a valued friend helps considerably.

[wordweaverlynn]

I'm just trying to treat myself as well as I would treat my worst enemy. Rarely manage it.

[amaebi]

*love*